tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post4277825575144518540..comments2023-11-03T06:16:11.862-04:00Comments on insidious truth: Monday Morons--Thanks Mom, but that's not really helpinglaughinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11999190808736700318noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-71484340689898626512007-06-14T04:16:00.000-04:002007-06-14T04:16:00.000-04:00Damn, you're having a hard time :-(I'd get Elizabe...Damn, you're having a hard time :-(<BR/><BR/>I'd get Elizabeth to go and sort your husband out :-) -<BR/><BR/>http://elizabethmcclung.blogspot.com/Philip.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01385613327362296432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-25918599534044136812007-06-13T19:07:00.000-04:002007-06-13T19:07:00.000-04:00my mums favourite saying of the moment is ''If i w...my mums favourite saying of the moment is ''If i were you...''<BR/><BR/>''If i were you, I'd get to the job centre tomorrow''<BR/><BR/>''If i were you, i'd do it this way..''<BR/><BR/>and on and on. Then she gets annoyed when i dont do what SHE would do, because, surprise surprise, I am not her. <BR/><BR/>Sorry to hear you are going through such a bad time. I hope things look up soon.Purple Pigeonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09550675294412799759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-18150977145448824742007-06-13T17:35:00.000-04:002007-06-13T17:35:00.000-04:00I've spent a lot of time in therapy on this one. ...I've spent a lot of time in therapy on this one. My dad killed himself when I was only 2, so my relationship with my mom was, of necessity, a very close one.<BR/><BR/>Once I became an adult, she was as free with her advice as when I was a kid. Often, if I discussed a problem with her, she volunteered solutions. Often, when I DIDN'T discuss problems with her, she still offered up solutions.<BR/><BR/>I've finally learned that she doesn't mean to suggest I'm less than an adult when she suggests this or that; but that, at some level of awareness, I take it that way. <BR/>"If she thought I was a grown-up," the undermining little internal voice goes, "she would trust you to solve your problems herself and limit her input to sympathy, minus the suggestions or proffered solutions."<BR/><BR/>Of course, from her point of view, she can't see why suggestions made in good faith are anything less than positive. She doesn't pout if I don't take her advice. She means well.<BR/><BR/>By being purposefully conscious of the fact that the comments and suggestions are not intended to undermine my adult self-image, I find her suggestions a lot less vexing.<BR/><BR/>Few moms really mean to undermine their kids with suggestions or offers of help. It's as much how we hear them as what they're saying.<BR/><BR/>If that helps, Laughing, I'm glad.<BR/><BR/>If not, feel free to ignore me. I won't be insulted and have full faith in your ability to manage your life yourself.<BR/><BR/>Best,<BR/>DiDCDavid in DChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01254984194783456496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-62133953669254144862007-06-13T10:06:00.000-04:002007-06-13T10:06:00.000-04:00I love my mom, and I can usually confide in her li...I love my mom, and I can usually confide in her like a good friend. However, sometimes she'll lecture me at the worst time when I'm feeling the lowest. I wind up more upset about what she's said to me than what upset me in the first place.Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16103812856035857566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-39769376405315110992007-06-13T08:20:00.000-04:002007-06-13T08:20:00.000-04:00Mothers don't always get us.. They think they are ...Mothers don't always get us.. They think they are trying to help but in the end they are only making it worse..Mrs. Hairy Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17953176969674262877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-20938083677054748322007-06-12T18:35:00.000-04:002007-06-12T18:35:00.000-04:00Mothers can be very helpful sometimes. Other time...Mothers can be very helpful sometimes. Other times they make you want to take out a 12 gauge and go to the mall. I always love the conversation with mom that begins and ends with the same question. I think they think they can fool us with now like they did when we were kids. Mom means well, but sometimes it is better to not say anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-556013428134130532007-06-12T15:36:00.000-04:002007-06-12T15:36:00.000-04:00That was what I originally went back to school to ...That was what I originally went back to school to do. But then it didn't seem like such a good idea. The degree plan kept changing, and I finally just dropped the education stuff and got a regular English degree.<BR/><BR/>Computers are okay if I'm doing the same stuff everyday. And it doesn't do any good to take a class unless there's something for me to do right after the class. I took intro to computers a long time ago, and then I had to basically take the same thing again for the education stuff. That class had a different name, but it was pretty much the same class, but with a few added things that are only good if you're an education major in Texas. Only that stuff wasn't really up and running when we took the class, so it was kind of a waste of time.laughinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11999190808736700318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34877723.post-15530340269546708422007-06-12T14:46:00.000-04:002007-06-12T14:46:00.000-04:00Have you thought about becoming an English teacher...Have you thought about becoming an English teacher? You totally could since you have your degree.<BR/><BR/>How are your computer skills?Diva's Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16177643214210147206noreply@blogger.com