Saturday, March 14, 2009

I don't like other people's blogs

And I think that I may do a few posts on the subject.

I know, I don't have a zillion fans either. Maybe there is someone out there complaining about my blog. Or maybe there are people out there who would complain about my blog, but they have better things to do. Writing posts complaining about other people's blogs is a silly waste of time.

But it's my blog, and I can do whatever I want with it.

Today, I am going to complain about a blog started by my brother-in-law.

Okay, so I'm guessing that the people reading this are somewhat familiar with my blog. This one and most of the blogs that I read are for the most part anonymous. I don't use my real name, and I haven't posted many pictures, and if I do post a picture it isn't of my face. I've posted maybe two pictures of myself, and I covered my face in both of them so that I could post them without any of you seeing my face. For the most part, you don't know who I am.

Let's see. My friend from the great white north knows who I am. There's another blogger that I met in real life. If my husband reads once in a while, well, he knows who I am. I don't think that the Homewrecking-slut and her friend read anymore, but if they do, they know who I am. But, in general, I don't tell my friends that I have a blog, and I haven't told the rest of my family, and I haven't given anyone the name of the blog, though one friend claims that he has found it anyway.

If someone I already know happened to find this blog, they might figure out I was the one writing it. Or if someone really wanted to figure out who writes this blog, they could figure out some things, like they know the general area where I live and such. But I usually don't write down anyone's real name when I'm writing about them, and so forth.

For the most part, it's anonymous, cause I want to be able to rant about this and that without people really knowing my business. You should be careful what you write about if you use your real name and such. There are a lot of weirdos out there.

So I don't care for my brother-in-law writing a blog where he uses everyone's real name and such. Not that he's writing anything bad. No. His blog isn't like mine in that respect. He just writes this is what they did yesterday, and this is what they did last week, and here are pictures of it.

Now, that kind of thing is okay, if you have a private blog with passwords and such. If only he and his family and friends could read it, that would be just fine. But he has an open blog like this one, and just any weirdo out there can stop by and find out where they like to eat lunch.

That sort of thing would really make me nervous.

But, he's a grown man, and if his wife doesn't want to tell him that isn't a good idea, then I guess he can do that.

Now I've just read a post where he pretty much gives out my grandmother's address.

He was making one of those "it's a small world" comments. My grandmother lives at a certain house, which was like down the street or around the corner from where his grandparents used to live. So I think he's just really amazed that none of us ever met before he started dating my sister.

But I think that he could have just said that, and not said where it was that his grandparents lived, and not said where it is that my grandma lives, and not write that whole thing under a picture of my grandma with her name and everything.

I know that it isn't nice to say that your in-laws are doing something stupid, but why does he have all this personal information and pictures on an open blog?


Ananda girl said...

I have a female friend who was stalked by some nut-bag who found her blogging. She was a very careful person. Far more careful than I am. He still managed to find out everything about her. Very creepy stuff. She ended up moving, going unlisted and changing everything... phone number, even a new computer and internet company all to cut him off.

The good news is that she did get rid of him and she is back blogging. But it was scary for her. All the changes were expensive too, but she had the means so it could have been worse. I'd just have to stay where I was.

But I think that privacy is a big deal and no one should mess with another's privacy. Nor should anyone ever give out the location of any elderly person. I assume that your grandma is elderly. The elderly are so easy to victimize.

This is good food for thought. I need to examine my own practices and see what sort of adjustments are in order. I give away a lot of information. Probably way too much sometimes. Hummmm....

dmarks said...

One of the bloggers I read used to have another blog (with very personal information), and I guess she had everyone at her workplace end up reading it. So she scrapped that one, and made a new one and is more careful.

laughingattheslut said...

I am glad that everyone is okay now. Lesson learned and all of that.

Yes, my grandmother is old. And there are already people who go after old people by phone, so I don't doubt that going after old people through information obtained on the web is far behind, if it isn't already happening.

So if someone wanted to go after my grandmother, not only would they have information about her from the blog to find her, but they could probably convince her that they were friends of my in-laws, because of all the information about them on the blog. I just think this is a really bad idea.